Photo of the Week #75: “A Lovingly Brother Gesture”
“This gesture of two brothers lovingly caressing one another is a typical gesture when these lions that are part of the famous Marsh Pride of Lions who live in Savuti, Botswana. The pride splits up during different seasons of the year but come together every now and again and this is a familiar gesture between the pride as they come together. It shows that loving and kindness is also applicable in the world of our wild animals.”-E. Gibson
This image was submitted to Our World is Kind Photography Contest.
“The little girl of a tribal-village is interacting with her little-pet with compassion while sitting beside the outer wall of their dwelling-place, painted with their everyday-lifestyle (India).”-A. Chandra
This image was submitted to Our World is Kind Photography Contest.
“In a food nutritional camp for the local children in India, the senior is taking care to feed the younger with the unexpressed doctrine of kindness.”-Amitava Chandra
This image was submitted to Our World is Kind Photography Contest.
“Governments have the capacity for great kindness.’The “Midday Meal
Scheme {plan}’ is a school meal program of the Government of India
designed to improve the nutritional status of school-going children
nationwide. The program supplies free lunches on working days for children
in primary & upper primary classes in Government, Government aided, local
body, Education Guarantee Scheme & alternate innovative education centers,
and Madarsa & Maqtabs run by the Ministry of Labour.”
This image was submitted to Our World is Kind Photography Contest.
On a drive home over eight years ago, a teenager had a very specific thought: “Day 1: Happiness is.. those perfect car rides where the radio just plays all the right songs.”
Elizabeth Buechele, then 17, went to her family’s computer and posted the thought as a status on Facebook. She has posted a status every day since then. Jan. 25, 2020 was her 3,000th day of sharing her joy on her social media.
Preface:The intent of this blog is to help people understand the health ramifications of stress. The science provides strong rationale to be kind to ourselves and why we should use some great, no cost ways to manage stress and fortify our resilience. So please don’t get stressed about stress–do something about it. We have the tools to tap into what nature has given us:the ability to heal ourselves.
COVID-19 stress: COVID-19 is a powerful, multifaceted stressor. For many, it is literally life and death; for others, financial ruin or the threat of it or a combination of the two. Even if we are not afflicted with coronavirus or still have work, we must acknowledge that we are collectively witnessing death, disease, and loss while our lives are on hold.
For any single person, of course, this can be huge. It would be entirely expected if you feel it, too. I do, as do many that I know. This stress is exacerbated by isolation, the necessary remedy to control the spread of the virus. Layered on top of these other stressors, loneliness itself affects people about the same as smoking 15 cigarettes per day.
Shouldering all of this for months on a scale of many millions portends a second epidemic due to stress’ effects on mental and physical health. Although the coronavirus pandemic will eventually end, we need to act now to fortify our resilience and prevent the stress-related consequences of COVID.
What stress does to us: On a behavioral level, stress can lead to depression and anxiety as well as anhedonia and sleep disturbances. It can cause cognitive errors and interfere with decision-making. Like when one person shoots at another because they didn’t cover their cough.
We must anticipate, therefore, that stress can also worsen COVID-19, perhaps enhancing susceptibility to infection or worsening the disease in those infected.
So while the responsible professionals focus on the virus and the economy, everyone needs to better manage their stress and fortify their resilience. This will help us be more calm, improve decision-making, and be healthier. And it may directly help with COVID-19.
Four techniques to manage stress and build resilence: Fortunately, there are four very effective ways to help. Using these techniques is not a sign that someone is not “tough enough.” Toughness alone is insufficient—it must be combined with the intelligence to use the tools that nature gave us to survive and be resilient.
For the reader’s convenience, we have assembled a resilience resource guide with links to mostly free online instruction by many wonderful teachers. It also has a webinar that explores this subject in-depth.
The first method is meditation, a technique practiced in different ways that helps quiet the incessant chatter in our minds. These thoughts often surround fear and ego that, in turn, generate stress when we focus on them (e.g., “what will happen if I can’t work?” or “will we get infected?” or “I’m not good enough”).
The goal of meditation is to be more present and be aware of the thoughts, not judge or attach to them, making it easier to let them pass. Meditation is not intended to suppress negative thoughts or be distracted from real concerns like solvency or health. By being more present, the mind is more calm to better manage these problems. And by changing how your thoughts affect you, you will have a great skill to buffer against overreacting to future stressors and challenges.
Getting started is not hard and can be done in a variety of ways. It just takes a little practice–10-20 minutes every day can make a huge difference. There is good evidence of how it changes our psychology and physiology. And you will likely find that you are more productive with the remaining 1420 minutes.
The second practice is exercise. Exercise in many forms is well known to reduce stress. Aerobic exercise has been particularly effective as a stress reduction tactic that releases endorphins and affect inflammation.
As gyms are closed, outdoor exercise in its many forms can be beneficial. Walking, gardening, running, dancing, and other forms can be managed even with social distancing. In addition to the exercise, being outside allows for appreciation of nature, a great tonic for a distressed soul.
Many exercises also have a meditative aspect to them as they require focus and presence. Yoga, which combines meditation with stretching and fitness, can easily be done in the confines of your home.
For whichever you choose, only do them if you are able; for any questions, please speak to your doctor.
The third modality is kindness and compassion. There is extensive evidence that giving to someone else makes people feel good. That feeling, colloquially labeled the “helper’s high,” feels good because it activates reward systems in the brain. Caring about others is a potent stress reliever likely through creating positive connection.
There are many ways to be kind. Reach out to others. Call your neighbors, particularly those living alone. By letting someone know you are thinking of them, they know that they matter and are not alone. Or make a donation. By helping others you will also help yourself.
Look for kindness, too. Seeing kindness triggers much of the same internal responses as doing kindness. Our non-profit specializes in gathering and sharing images of kindness. People who see these are happier, more optimistic, inspired, and grateful. See how you feel after looking a the image below from Lindsay Baca.
To amplify this further, laugh with others. Although coronavirus is highly contagious, so is laughter (and kindness); you can help each other experience its benefits.
Conclusion: We have been given the biology to help heal ourselves and be resilient. We just need to be kind to ourselves and reach for the tools to tap into it. This is very achievable with regular practice at little or no cost. And when the Corona virus epidemic ends (which it will), these same tools will be very useful in our every day lives.
Photo of the Week #71: “All Things Grow with Love”
“Each year, Buttonwood Farms in Griswold, CT plants over 14 acres of sunflowers and harvests approximately 300,000 blooms for viewing pleasure and to benefit the Make-A-Wish Foundation of Connecticut. This foundation is a non-profit organization devoted to making wishes possible for children with life-threatening medical conditions. It’s truly incredible to walk through the acres and acres of bright, tall, beautiful sunflowers that have been grown to raise money for such an amazing cause. I came across this very happy flower mixed in with the rest. It immediately brightened up my day, as it did many others as they walked by. Someone so kind found a way to further spread happiness in this field full of hopes and dreams.”-K. Hawkins
This image was submitted to Our World is Kind Photography Contest.
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